Talking to other parents young and old I have come to one conclusion NO ONE knows what they are doing. Everyone walking around looking like perfect parents like they got it together. They don't...They have no idea what they they are doing. There is no formula, structure, or plan that can prepare you for that first child.
Now don't mistake this for saying you can't have a plan and structure, but sometimes that can get thrown out of the window. People think the same things that worked for them will work for their child or someone else child. But no set of instructions would fit for All children. So what do you do when your child doesn't fit in the instructions you thought they would follow? You adjust. Sure in a perfect world my Son would sing like John Legend, act like Denzel, smart like Carter G Woodson, and athletic like LeBron. But what do you do when their interest are completely different from yours? What if your son wants to be a ballet dancer? Do you discourage him and still force your interest hoping something sticks? Not me, see I believe if you want to do something whatever it is as long as you are giving 100% that's what it is important. I'm competitive so I'm more focused on them being the best lol. So you want to do ballet? Ok guess what we doing after school all those ballet moves and lifts 😂😂😂. I'm going on YouTube finding moves, techniques, ect. At the recital I'm checking for body control, straight legs, and pointy toes👀👀👀. I know this may be a bit a of stretch with ballet but I believe that you adjust your plan to your child's happiness. Would I love to see Khari hit a home run with bases loaded 2 outs? Hell Yeah!!! But the most important thing is his happiness. So if we are in the stands or in some seats I'm All-In 100%. Just know if your child strays from your plan you haven't failed. You actually succeeded by teaching them to find themselves and their happiness. No there are no instructions for this parenting life. So just strap in and shower with your children with love. What are your thoughts? Were you raised with a plan layed out? How do you adjust to your child choosing a different path?
Now don't mistake this for saying you can't have a plan and structure, but sometimes that can get thrown out of the window. People think the same things that worked for them will work for their child or someone else child. But no set of instructions would fit for All children. So what do you do when your child doesn't fit in the instructions you thought they would follow? You adjust. Sure in a perfect world my Son would sing like John Legend, act like Denzel, smart like Carter G Woodson, and athletic like LeBron. But what do you do when their interest are completely different from yours? What if your son wants to be a ballet dancer? Do you discourage him and still force your interest hoping something sticks? Not me, see I believe if you want to do something whatever it is as long as you are giving 100% that's what it is important. I'm competitive so I'm more focused on them being the best lol. So you want to do ballet? Ok guess what we doing after school all those ballet moves and lifts 😂😂😂. I'm going on YouTube finding moves, techniques, ect. At the recital I'm checking for body control, straight legs, and pointy toes👀👀👀. I know this may be a bit a of stretch with ballet but I believe that you adjust your plan to your child's happiness. Would I love to see Khari hit a home run with bases loaded 2 outs? Hell Yeah!!! But the most important thing is his happiness. So if we are in the stands or in some seats I'm All-In 100%. Just know if your child strays from your plan you haven't failed. You actually succeeded by teaching them to find themselves and their happiness. No there are no instructions for this parenting life. So just strap in and shower with your children with love. What are your thoughts? Were you raised with a plan layed out? How do you adjust to your child choosing a different path?
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